The client was experiencing major burnout at work. She was having a hard time being seen as – and thought of – as a leader.
She had isolated herself from her colleagues and was struggling with the idea that she “didn’t fit in with the rest of the crowd.” As a result, she was struggling in her leadership role.
The client was experiencing major symptoms of depression and had an overwhelming sense that “I don’t matter. I believe I was the product of a failed abortion.” This was the narrative she allowed to play over and over in her mind for most of her life. As a result of this internal, negative feedback loop, she had low self-esteem and almost zero self-worth. In addition, she was a recovering alcoholic and felt she was hanging onto her sobriety by a thread. She had been actively working with a clinical therapist to give her the tools she needed to maintain some sort of balance. But for her, that didn’t appear to be enough to truly help.
The first task was to get the client to let go of her assumptions, guilt, and past hurts that were interfering with her working relationships. She needed to recognize how her past and the negative thoughts she had about herself were impacting the key relationships she had with all those around her. She needed to face her feelings of worthlessness and doubt and reframe them.
Also, she needed help regaining clarity and direction. By assisting her in identifying her worth and value, she was able to let go of her false narrative and begin to refocus her priorities at work and at home.
Within one day, the client:
- Reframed her thinking, stopping the negative feedback she had been hearing for years.
- Achieved clarity with her purpose and value, resulting in improved communication and better understanding.
- Improved her working relationship with her colleagues.
- Re-aligned her work priorities and improved her leadership skills.
- Gained greater freedom to reconnect and rebuild important relationships that had been affected by her low self-esteem and self-worth.
She felt more connected spiritually with who she really wanted to be, versus feeling the need to be validated by others’ perceptions of her. She also:
- Realized proactive communication is required
- Learned no is not the answer